Hello there. My name is Whitney. I work as a data privacy attorney, have two kids, and a cat named Coconut.
This blog is intended to help women find their confidence again after going through hard times and to strive for more in life. I hope that this gives you the motivation to make the changes in your life that will bring you more happiness, more love, more confidence, more friends, and more money. This blog will include a collection of motivational and lifestyle tips so that you can become the Her that you have always wanted to be.
I knew when I started college that I wanted to go to law school. I picked Communication Studies as my major not only because it aligned with my interests, but also because it allowed me to fast track my courses. After graduating with my bachelors in three years I immediately started law school. To be completely honest, I did not apply myself as much as I could have during law school. My goal had to been to attend law school but I didn’t have a plan for what I wanted after that.
I got married during my second year of law school and we decided to move across the country after graduation. I had always wanted to move to another state and experience new things and it seemed like the perfect time to take that leap. It was extremely stressful studying for the bar exam and preparing to move across the country but we made it happen.
After moving away from all my family, friends and everything I knew, I spent a long time realigning my world view. I had been raised in the Mormon faith and growing up had been taught that that was the only true religion. I had to put aside fears about what my family and friends would think of me and figure out what it was I truly believed. I was living across the country from my family and friends and reclassifying everything I believed about the world.
After passing the bar exam, I took what I thought at the time would be a temporary job while I looked for something else. That temporary job turned out to be an amazing opportunity that fast tracked my career. That did not come without costs. At times my job was very demanding and required long hours. My body and relationships suffered because I felt like I had to do whatever the job asked and did not put any boundaries in place.
After trying to get pregnant for a few years, I gave birth to my first child in 2018. Given how long it took the first time it was a huge shock when I got pregnant again six months later. My pregnancies were challenging and I was super sick the entire time. I also ended up having c-sections with both of them.
My son was diagnosed with Autism right before he turned three. There was so much to learn about and to do between coordinating therapies, school resources, and how to parent in a way that worked for him. Each transition brought with it a host of new challenges.
In January of 2023 I made the difficult decision to leave my marriage after years of mental and emotional abuse and I moved out of my home. This brought with it a lot of difficult emotions and a new journey navigating divorce, co-parenting, and living on my own for the first time. Shortly after moving I also experienced health issues which eventually required surgery. I was dealing with a very challenging client at work, my son was struggling with behavior issues in school and I was dealing with my health issues and being separated. I felt like I was a shell. I hated where I was living, hated my job, was parenting under stress with little patience, and was not happy with myself.
After years of being torn down by the person who was supposed to love and support me, complete burnout from my job, being separated from family with no support system close by, I had to rebuild myself piece by piece. I had to learn to rely on myself and to find fulfillment in my life. I had spent so long feeling like I was running on a hamster wheel in an endless cycle of unhappiness that it took a long time to get out of that mindset.
The process is still ongoing. And that is the great thing about life. There is endless room to bring in more of what we love and what makes us happy. I firmly believe that no matter your circumstances you have the power to change your life and make into what you want it to be. It is not free and may take months, years or decades but it is worth every step. I hope that this blog gives you the motivation to leave behind what is no longer for you or to keep pushing through the hard times or to simply show you small ways to add more joy and purpose to your life.